Letting go of the familiar and embracing change is a huge part of shadow work. Letting go of the familiar and embracing change It’s something new and it’s unknown which scares our ego.
Often times we cling onto what is comfortable to us because the unknown is uncomfortable. staying in toxic situations because you are afraid to step out of your comfort zone and leave.staying in toxic situations because you feel like that’s what you are worthy of.So what responses have you created to protect yourself as a child that you haven’t been able to let go of? That’s how we live out the most authentic versions of ourselves and that’s when our soul is the most fulfilled. We are meant to live out a life where we are listening to our intuition, a life where we are in alignment with our highest version of self. The thing is, we didn’t come here to live a life that other people want for us. Usually feeling rejected by a parent creates this rejection wound and can cause us to so badly want approval and acceptance from those around us to fill a void from childhood. I always wanted my parents to reassure me as a child, to validate my feelings, but often I didn’t get that. I know I personally struggled with external validation for a long time. The need for external validation is another trauma response that many of us pick up as a child. This actually creates a block between you and your intuition because instead of listening to your intuition, you are listening to external voices that are outside of you. That’s another example of people pleasing and trying to seek external validation. However, you don’t want to let your parents down because they are your parents, you’d do anything to make them proud, s o instead of listening to your intuition, you follow your parents’ wishes for you and you go to college. You think college would be a waste of money for you because you aren’t sure what you really want to do for the rest of your life yet. You could probably notice this too if for example, you have parents that really want you to go to college and get a degree, but deep down you know that’s not entirely what you want to do. This creates this mask of who we truly want to be and show up as. Instead we are doing what we think others want us to do. Often times people pleasing can cause this inauthentic version of self because we aren’t listening to what we truly want. I would just do what I thought would make everyone else happy rather than doing what would make ME happy. I always hated confrontation and making other people upset, so instead I would avoid it all together. I held onto this almost all my life until I finally started healing and realized that this was a trauma response I picked up in my childhood as a way to protect myself as a kid. The response I created because of this was “people pleasing”. I’d wonder if what I was doing was going to make my dad upset or not. This really bothered me as a child to the point where I would always second guess my actions. These reactions can point towards a version of ourself that we created in order to feel safe as a child.īecause of the relationship I had with my dad growing up, I was constantly walking on egg shells around him because his temper was constantly changing. Then I want you to also think about what reactions and responses you have to those triggers.
Think about what triggers you, usually our triggers will point towards that shadow side, that side of us that needs to be healed. These 90 shadow work journal prompts can help you figure this out
The first step to doing shadow work is to figure out what we need to heal. Always seek out medical help from a licensed professional. This is just based off of my own healing journey, therapy I went through, and my own research. It’s also the part of us that reveals itself when we feel triggered.ĭISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed therapist, psychologist, etc. Our shadow self holds all of our limiting beliefs that stop us from manifesting what we really desire and or shadow self stops us from showing up as our true authentic self. O ur shadow self, the part of us where our ego comes in to try and stop us from stepping out of our comfort zone, or that part of us that decides to do what our parents want us to do rather than what we think is best for ourselves. For most, shadow work is really hard because it means we have to face those parts of us that are wounded and need healing.
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Before we start manifesting we need to do our shadow work, in this post I am going to teach you how to do shadow work.
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